How to Support Your Neurodivergent Child Through Bullying

May 14

Bullying is an unfortunate reality for many children, but for kids who identify as neurodivergent, the risk is significantly higher. Whether your child is autistic, has ADHD, a sensory processing difference, or another form of neurodivergence, they may find themselves more frequently targeted or misunderstood by peers. As a parent, witnessing this pain can be heartbreaking. You may feel helpless, angry, or unsure of what to do next.

At AIM Counseling Services, we work closely with families navigating these complex situations. Here are a few essential steps to support your neurodivergent child if they’ve experienced bullying:

1. Start with Validation

The most powerful first step is also the simplest: believe them. Neurodivergent children often internalize messages that they are "too sensitive" or "overreacting." Your job is not to minimize the experience—it’s to let them know their feelings are real and valid.

Try saying:

“I’m so sorry this happened to you.”
“It makes sense that you feel hurt and confused.”
“You didn’t deserve to be treated that way.”

Validation builds trust and reinforces your role as a safe, nonjudgmental support.

2. Understand the Specifics

Ask open-ended questions to understand what happened without leading the conversation. Kids may have trouble articulating bullying, especially if it’s subtle or involves social exclusion. Use gentle prompts like:

“Can you tell me more about what they said or did?”
“When did this start happening?”
“Has anything like this happened before?”

Be patient; processing takes time, and your child may open up gradually.

3. Help Them Name Their Needs

Neurodivergent kids may not always know what kind of help to ask for. Help them identify their needs with prompts like:

“Would it help if a teacher knew about this?”
“Do you want me to help you practice what to say if it happens again?”
“Would you like to talk to someone like a counselor about this?”

Empowering your child to articulate their needs builds resilience and self-advocacy skills.

4. Collaborate with the School (if safe and appropriate)

It’s often necessary to involve school staff to ensure your child’s safety. Depending on the situation, this might mean speaking with a teacher, counselor, or administrator. Keep documentation of incidents and stay focused on solutions that support your child, not punishment alone.

If your child is hesitant about involving the school, respect their wishes when possible—and work with a therapist to explore options together.

5. Reinforce Their Strengths

Bullying can chip away at a child’s self-esteem. Gently remind them of who they are beyond this experience. Reflect back their kindness, creativity, humor, or tenacity. Celebrate their unique perspective and contributions. Remind them: being different can be a great thing too!

6. Seek Professional Support

Sometimes, bullying leads to anxiety, depression, or trauma. A licensed therapist, especially one experienced with neurodivergent youth, can help your child process what happened and learn tools for healing and self-advocacy.

At AIM Counseling Services, we specialize in supporting neurodivergent children and their families with compassion, insight, and affirming care. You're not alone—and your child doesn’t have to be either.

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